No, God Is Not Disappointed in You

For the past couple of days I’ve been trying to process a conclusion that I’ve finally been able to come to over the past couple of months.  I’ve made no secret that I made a mistake that caused me to have a parting of ways from my old church and the youth group I was working with.  For those just wandering by and reading, the mistake was not disclosing information a teen shared with me, and we’ll just leave it at that.  There were other considerations involved, but they’re irrelevant in the larger sense.  Bottom line, I screwed up, I paid the consequences.   So often though, as with mistakes we make that impact others, we (I) have a tendency to blame ourselves and the voice of Satan just screams out that we’ve failed GOD.   Not only did we fail GOD, but HE was/is disappointed with me because I should have known better, should have seen it coming, should have……the list of “should’ves” are endless.   The conclusion I’ve reached, you’re probably asking?  Forgiveness.  Of myself, of those I perceived as being part of the “issue”(I know, pretty vague), but mostly of myself.   I don’t want to hold onto it and Guard the “injury” anymore, I want to serve my new church to the best of my ability, but I can’t do that if I’m holding on to the hurts of the recent past and constantly showing it to GOD and saying:  “Look, I’m a screw up and can’t be trusted”.  I’ve got to be honest and say I’ve been doing that.   I don’t want to do that anymore.   I’m a damn good youth worker and think I would be an asset to any youth department, and whether or not I work with my new church’s youth department isn’t the issue, I will not be any good to my church in any capacity if I’m holding a regret or feeling of failure.   I spent most of the last two years with the youth group I left hiding from everyone that I felt like a failure and that I was an unwanted bastard step child of GOD.   It’s taking a long time to realize how wrong that point of view is.  So, bottom line of this intro to the outstanding article below;  I’m letting the failure go, the hurt, the disappointment, and to an extent, the ashes of the relationships that I set fire to when I left my old church.  Not all of them, because some of them are intact and I appreciate those people who stood up and supported me, but letting go of the ashes of the relationships that were directly affected by the mistake.   I made a lot of mistakes in the wake of trying to rectify the mistake, a lot of over reactions and over-compensations, but ya know what?  I’m tired of judging myself and holding that over my head because GOD isn’t.   Consequences were dealt for the mistake, and it’s time to move on and allow GOD to use me in a hopefully greater way then I was at the old church.   If you’re reading this and struggling with a mistake or feelings of failure or regret for some mistake, GOD IS NOT HOLDING IT AGAINST YOU!!  Read the article below, I hope it helps  someone.

No, God Is Not Disappointed In You:  So Stop Feeling So Guilty

Chances are, especially if you’re in a leadership position, you’ve taken some sort of strengths finder test.

But no one takes a weakness finder test.

For many of us, it seems as if a spotlight shines on our mistakes and weaknesses. We’re well aware of the ways in which we fall short, and we often habitually focus on them.

We assume God must be displeased that we still can’t seem to get it right. We assume He’s focusing on our faults as much as we are.

In reality, this viewpoint neither fits with the foundation of Christianity, nor with the kind of God we follow.

It’s Not Who We Are

God hates sin. He hates it because He hates that which is opposed to truth, beauty, His loving will and desire to protect.

Rather than using our faults as a chance to punish ourselves, perhaps we can consider them the invitation to grasp more deeply the intense love of God.

But God’s hatred of sin is only part of the picture. The other part, of course, is His incomparable love for us—one that is so zealous and all encompassing, He couldn’t help but make a way for us to escape sin’s bondage.

Enter Jesus Christ. While we think we know the meaning behind Jesus’ death, and most of us have “accepted” it for our personal lives, the real litmus test comes with our response to sin. If we become preoccupied with its ugliness, hanging our heads in anxiety and shame, we’re likely not absorbing the truth that we are much more than our faults.

If Christ has truly taken our sins, then clenching on to them is not what pleases God. When we feel we need to punish ourselves, we are actually devaluing Jesus’ sacrifice—even exalting our perceived ability to redeem ourselves or finish His atonement.

The Scripture says, “without faith, it is impossible to please God.” So we can give ourselves permission to let go of our striving, and we can surrender to believing the job is done. It is this surrendering that opens us to experience what we are meant to: God’s peace. “It is for (this) freedom that Christ has set us free” (Galatians 5:1) in the first place.

We must remember this reality and learn to believe it at deeper and deeper levels. Nothing gives us the opportunity to do this like the awareness of our faults.

Rather than using our faults as a chance to punish ourselves, perhaps we can consider them the invitation to not only practice our faith, but also to grasp the intense love of God.

God’s Approach With Us

God does not identify us by our sins. It’s almost as if He sees things the other way around—while we might magnify our mistakes, God magnifies the beauty given to us. He is not intimidated by our weaknesses, like we so often are. He sees their power as already dissolved by the cross.

When we feel guilty and perceive God as sternly pointing out our faults, perhaps we can recognize it is really just our own voices or the enemy’s. We can choose instead, to listen to His quieter voice that tenderly repeats, “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ.” (Romans 8:1). We can recognize that God is a God of deep compassion.

Does this mean we should overlook our sins? Not at all. When we see issues in our lives, we are asked to take them seriously, to present them and ourselves to the only One who is able to help us, teach us and grow us into His likeness. After all, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

God is a God of deep compassion. His is not embarrassed or surprised by our struggles, but desires to hold us through them.

We are simply meant to know God embraces us no matter the severity of the sin, so that we will not recoil in shame, but come to Him in comfort. We are meant to understand that God does not define us by these issues, and therefore we shouldn’t either.

God is not disappointed in you. Far from it.

The Hope We Need

Our souls are wearied by the weights we put on ourselves. We are often dried up by self-criticisms and judgement. We try to motivate ourselves with fear and shame—the idea that we are bad people until we change. But that tactic simply isn’t effective.

Staying in shame keeps us stuck. And God knows this. So He chooses to motivate us by giving us knowledge of who we really are, and awareness of His unconditional kindness. He knows that only gracious love brings us healing and the ability to love ourselves. It then gives us the strength to let go, and move forward in hope.

Simply, there is a precious and freeing truth that God wants us to receive deep down. That is, we are beautiful; and He is pleased with us. He even “rejoices with singing over us” (Zephaniah 3:17). May we be willing to accept this message. May it inevitably draw us closer to Him, and serve as water to our souls.

Jade Mazarin

By Jade Mazarin

July 7, 2015

Jade Mazarin is a board certified Christian counselor in Vero Beach, Florida and the author of The Heart’s Journey to Freedom Find her online at or follow her on Facebook.


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