When I first started out working with youth, I had this idea that I could be the one that could change a kids life, that because I was present in their life, if I maintained that presence, it could change them in some way. I learned the hard way how untrue and even arrogant that thought was. I can not be the HOLY SPIRIT. I can only be me, the HOLY SPIRIT is the only one that can change a life, and most of the time, my presence isn’t even needed. It could be helpful, but not needed. Like the author, I’ve seen kids that grew up in the church, were heavily involved in youth group activities, and then at some point, either their junior or senior year they drop out of sight because of jobs, sports, girl/boyfriend and the next thing you know their on facebook practically stating their either atheist or agnostic. That maybe a bit of an exaggeration, but I agree with the author, the only thing we can do is pray, be present in some way, and be ready for when and if they reach out. Enjoy the article
I think one of the hardest things about a job as a youth worker/pastor is watching a student who used to be so involved not be anymore. A student who you have seen God made a complete 180 degree turn in go back to the ways they struggled with before and become more and more distant. It is heart breaking. It is even more heart-breaking when you need to console the mother of that student because she doesn’t know what to do anymore. What does one do with this? What can we possibly say in times like this? What can we actively do with this to move forward? I’m going to be honest…
I don’t know.
It’s hard. I have been working through this myself lately with some students and what I keep coming back to is this verse:
“How tremendous is the power available to us who believe in God. That power is the same divine power which was demonstrated in Christ when he raised him from the dead.”Ephesians 1:19b-20
Something I have learned more this year than in my previous years in youth ministry is that we have the power to change no one. As much as we want to, we don’t have the power to do this. But we serve a God who can change the hearts and minds of those He created and loves. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is the same power in which can cause someone to be open to listen to God, to others and take advice to turn their hearts around.
I don’t know if there are more steps to this, but this is what I have been doing this past year and I have seen God move in students who used to be far from Him to call them back and I am confident in prayer that He will do the same with those students right now that are far from Him as well.
Prayer is simple but it is not always easy. Patience is key to prayer. Pray God begins to soften their heart to be open to talking about what is happening.
For students who are not coming like they used to because they know they are doing things that are not right, constantly pursue them. Let them know that you are thinking of them and praying for them and are there for them. Whether if they text back or not, they will know that you are still thinking about them.
We don’t know how long it will take, but we need to persist. I have seen in my own ministry, I have gotten a random text from a student months after them not being around but because they knew I was thinking about them weekly, when things got hard I would get a text to meet up with them because they knew I was wanting to meet with them for months.
If they do reach out to you, be prepared for what is coming. Be prepared to listen. Listen well. Most of the time when I have these meetings I don’t say anything because I just want to hear what’s going on. I’m not quick to give advice unless asked. Usually this is the first of many meetings to follow.
God has the power to bring people back to Him. We do not. So pray, pursue, persist and prepare for those students who walk away. God can still move in huge ways and we get to be a vessel in bringing students back to Jesus. What an awesome job we have.